Why am I not crazy worried about new job abroad currently? Short answer: basically, all the hassle you go through as a trans person makes you forget/sideline the other stuff that non-trans people are fretting about.
Take me preparing to live abroad in a couple of day’s time. My main concerns are:
- Taking my meds and needles in cabin bag
- Taking an STP through security and customs at airport
- Sharing a room with an unknown cis-guy for a week
- Bathroom situation abroad
These are things that i’m researching as much as possible, and getting prepped for. I get highly organised, I anticipate snags and print out evidence and back-ups. I find out my rights and try find trans people who have been in simular situations. It makes me take a step back from the other “common” stuff to worry about when doing something major and I think:
“well, tbh, as long as I can get the trans stuff sorted, I can deal with anything else“
Setting up internet abroad? Finding the nearest supermarket? Setting up a bank account? Ordering dinner in a different language? Fine. I’ll do it somehow. It might be messy, it might not all go right. But I’m so used to having to deal with hidden surprises (thanks to all the complications of being trans) that it take A LOT to phase me now.
It’s not to say I don’t have nerves and stuff, it’s just…I can’t focus on everything at once, so I have a good distraction – a puzzle to solve as long as I am organised and logical about it all.
I’m having fun trying to pack.
Check luggage: I want to pack about 30kg.. I have 23kg.
Hand Luggage: I want to pack about 10kg..I have 7kg (with 2kg of that taken up by meds)
I am utilising pockets like nobody’s business. I look like gadget boy trying to shoplift.
Had to visit the nurse briefly yesterday cause got freaked out by a load of goo coming from a stitch area on my chest whilst changing the micropore tape. I mean A LOT of stuff came out and left a small hole. Naturally I was concerned about an infection or something, but nurse reassured me it’s fine. Reminded me though that I still gotta be careful with my nips, even 2 months after surgery.
Anyway, so it comes to the end of an era for this blog. No more weekly’s. I’ll get the odd post in when I can and see how it goes. Hopfully this is not the end, just a shift in schedules. **waves**!! 🙂